Black Sistarhood
I’ll first start with a story to share that led me to this post. When I was a little girl, my mother would also tell me, “She doesn’t do friends”. Meaning, she does not hang around a lot of women, because women are filled with drama all the time. My mother was a hair stylist, so she constantly dealt with women on a day to day basis. At the time, we lived in an apartment complex in little woods which was a poverty stricken area, that came with a lot of violence. Therefore, the type of women my mother would engage with probably had a lot to do with why she “doesn’t do friends”.
As I began to grow up, going through different schools. I kept the mindset that my mother imbedded in me, “We don’t do friends”. Throughout my childhood, I did have friends. Most of them were friends via dance school or my neighborhood. My biggest challenge came when I started high school. I attended an all girl, predominantly black, private school. This school teaches you about becoming a woman and being apart of a sisterhood. During these years, I had many issues with the girls at my school. I would constantly get into arguments and because we knew the consequences of fighting (being put out) things never got that far, but very close. A private school education, knowing how hard my godmother worked to keep me here. I couldn’t allow my emotions to get the best of me.
As I went through college, I still remained to myself for the most part, but would hang mostly around guys. This was very natural to me since I have 8 brothers. My mid 20s was a discovery period for me. I’d started my business, Inalia Adornments catering to only women. At this moment, my perception of women started to change drastically. As I began working with different women, and hearing their experiences and journeys; is when I realized I have another purpose in life and it is to assist women in their healing process.
This was major for me because I didn’t really spend a lot of time around women, intentionally. Keeping what I remembered as a little girl in the back of my mind. However the universe had something bigger planned for me. As I started to assist women in their healing journey, I was able to slowly remove that thought in my head that was embedded since I was a little girl. Ever since my mindset changed towards women, the universe has been putting trustworthy, honest and good women in my life..
Today, I am grateful for the women that’s has helped me during my healing journey. Some of you don’t realize it that you’re apart of my journey too.. You’ve helped me to let my wall down and accept and with that, I can fulfill my purpose, gracefully and with honor.
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